If you read my post earlier in the week you know that we've been busy around here. I implemented a daily routine in my home. Madelynn was becoming a very disobedient child with random lash outs at me. Occasionally they would be towards her daddy too but mostly towards me. I racked my brain over and over to figure out what I was doing wrong in parenting her. I finally figured it out. Before we moved into our apartment we are living in now we did the same thing in the same order every day since she was who knows how little. Then we moved and that's always hecktic. But on top of that I was 6 months pregnant and just tired all the time. I would let her watch tv. We'd do whatever whenever I got enough energy to do it. Everything was just haphazard. It was bad. So how could I not expect her to throw a fit when I told her she needed to clean up and she needed to do it now. She wasn't expecting it. There was no warning. She was playing and wanted to keep doing so. If you have a toddler you know their mentality. It's "but I want to" for everything. Doesn't matter what you want them to do. They haven't completely figured out reasoning. And you don't always have 20 minutes to sit down and explain to them what's going on and why they need to clean. So a routine was needed. That way she knew what to expect and when to expect it and I did too.
I made it a routine and no a schedule because I am being reasonable for myself. I know that I can not keep a strict schedule with a 2 month old. It just won't happen. We also don't wake up the same time every day. I never wake my children when they're sleeping. I think it's silly. If they're sleeping they obviously need the sleep.
I started with the basics. In the morning we used to eat breakfast and watch a movie. Then we ended up in our pajamas all day long with dirty teeth. So now in the morning we eat breakfast, get dressed, and brush our teeth. No movie or television show episode. That's definitely been the hardest transition for Madelynn but she's taking it well.
Next I wanted Madelynn to have a definite chore. I came up with gathering the laundry and putting it in the washer. She loves doing this. I think it makes her feel like a big girl because she knows she's helping Mommy. I don't ever help her with her chore unless she asks. I also don't rush her along. I want this to be something she does joyfully. I want to teach my daughter the joy of doing chores at a young age. I never learned that they could be a joyful thing. Now they are my daily job. So I better start being joyful about it or I'm going to be a very grumpy person all the time.
After morning chores are done we have bible time. Before we started our homeschool curriculum I was just reading her the story of Moses. But since we've started our
Sonbeams homeschool preschool curriculum we have been using the Bible lessons from it every day. I like doing this much better because it has the scripture right from the Bible but it also lines it out in a way a child can understand it.
When we're done with Bible time we have School time. We always start School time with Board time.
The goal of the board is to start school in a fun way. It teaches her the days of the week slowly. It also has the letter, number, color, and bible verse of the week on it. The bible verse is missing in the picture because I keep forgetting to hang it. But Madelynn knows it. She has 3 verses memorized right now. She's awesome!
When we sit down to do school I use the
Sonbeams Preschool Homeschool curriculum. I love it. I will be talking more about it in several different posts. We don't sit at the table to do school every day. Madelynn is only 2 1/2. I'm making school fun. So I don't use the whole curriculum. I pick and choose. I'm definitely going to be able to go through it all over again with her next year and actually do all of it. We have started having 1 park day a week. As the weather gets cooler or rainier that park day will turn into a library day.
After we're done with school stuff Hayleigh is awake to eat. I feed her and then Madelynn and I play with her in the floor until it's time to make lunch.
When we're finished with lunch it is naptime. For some reason this is the hardest time for Madelynn. She doesn't want to nap anymore. But I know she still needs it. If she doesn't get a nap most days she's a crabby mess after dinner. This is her biggest fit throwing time of day. Which I don't understand because since she's been a tiny baby after lunch has ALWAYS been naptime.
While the girls are down for a nap I load the dishwasher, put away laundry, and blog.
When they wake up it is free play time for Madelynn while I cook dinner. I say free play time because for the whole morning she is doing something with me. In the evening she gets to play alone.
After we eat dinner Madelynn has to clean up all of the toys she got out that day. Some evenings this goes quickly. Some evenings this is another huge fit. I have taken toys away because she won't clean them up. Then given them back after she's been really good at cleaning up only to take them away again 2 days later because she refuses to clean up. It's an ongoing battle that I'm not sure how to end.
Whenever she finally gets done cleaning up it's time for pajamas. If she ate all of her dinner and wasn't a horrible child while cleaning up then I will give her a snack. If she was horrible while cleaning up or didn't finish her dinner then she only gets milk. I don't care how horrible you think I am for sending my kid to bed hungry. She needs to learn that dinner is dinner. She doesn't get something extra if she doesn't eat it.
Then it's time for brushing her teeth. After she brushes her teeth we go to her Chore Chart and place an M next to all the things she did that day. We have H's too for Hayleigh for the things that Mommy does for Hayleigh. If Madelynn gets all of her M's then we get to do the "Happy Chore Dance". I know that seems pretty lame to just have a dance that we do. But Madelynn loves to dance and if she doesn't get to dance because she didn't do all of her chores that's a big deal to her.
We end the night we prayer time and then bed.
It works pretty well most days. Like I said, we have our melt down days. I can only hope that continually being consistent with this routine will make those less and less.
I have the routine posted for myself so I stay motivated. For some reason if it's there and posted where Casey can see it and can ask, "did you do this today?" about any on of those things I'm more likely to do it. I need accountability. I'm also a much happier person with a routine.
I hope this insight into my home helps you in your home.